The "Low Pressure" Trap It happens constantly on Bumble and Hinge. You are hitting it off, and then comes the pivot: "I'm not on here much, what's your Instagram?" It feels innocent, even flattering. It seems like a "soft launch" into a real connection. However, dating experts warn that this specific move is often a calculated tactic. By moving you to Instagram instead of texting, he gains access to your life while carefully curating what you see of his. Before you accept that follow request, you need to understand why he is avoiding a phone number—and it usually isn't because he "hates texting."